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Someone posted a thought on facebook today that got me thinking. My friend Kim … “wonder’s why the sting of rejection goes deeper than the warmth of acceptance…”
It’s so true, isn’t it? We give so much power to hurt, and don’t milk those warm moments for all they can give us.
It got me thinking about [...]
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We are taught to be nice when we are children. Women, in particular, are trained to acquiesce to the needs of others, not rock the boat, say nothing rather than be nasty…blah blah blah. We learn to swallow our voices and then we spend the rest of our lives trying to make sense of the [...]
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I often ask people who seem a bit depleted “What fills you up?” “When you want to feel good about yourself, where do you go, what do you do… who do you see?”
I remember a time in my life when I was feeling extremely useless and incompetent. I was about to go on stage in a [...]
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Do you ever watch yourself? Do you ever have moments when you step outside of your own skin and, without an invitation, imagine how someone else might be experiencing you?
I hope so.
This is my definition of responsibility. To have the skill and courage to imagine how you affect others…how they experience you. Might I even suggest [...]
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Sometimes we lose parts of ourselves in giving. Women, this is mostly for you, but not just you.
For the past month, I have been “mother” again, in the purest sense of the word…just giving. Anticipating and responding to one of my (grown) baby’s needs. Okay, not in every moment… but after what has felt like [...]
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