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  • Do you blame yourself for what happened?  Sometimes when bad things happen we think it's our "fault", and our stuckness is about not feeling deserving of moving on to a happier place.  Can you have compassion for your imperfection and any mistakes or decisions you made?  Can you let others take responsibility for their own decisions?  Does punishing yourself make anything better for anyone? 


 

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