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But more common is the situation where we have an emotional reaction that is out of proportion to the situation...where a small thing someone else does or says leads to a BIG reaction on our part.  This is a trigger.

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  • Are you stuck asking yourself "why?"...  sometimes things happen that make no sense to us and we spend years trying to figure it out.  "Why" questions are not easily answered...they're generally useless.   Ask yourself whether you need to know why in order to move on.  Is it possible to accept that you will never know why?  Can you accept the powerlessness of not having your questions answered?  Is not knowing why reason enough to keep yourself from moving forward?


 

  • Do you blame yourself for what happened?  Sometimes when bad things happen we think it's our "fault", and our stuckness is about not feeling deserving of moving on to a happier place.  Can you have compassion for your imperfection and any mistakes or decisions you made?  Can you let others take responsibility for their own decisions?  Does punishing yourself make anything better for anyone? 


 

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  • Did something happen that you continually replay in your head?  Do you go over and over situations that upset you?  This is completely useless unless you are practising for what to do differently next time.  Try letting yourself imagine different endings for 15 minutes, but limit yourself to that. 


 

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