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Buy zantac without prescription, Trust is one of the fundamental elements in a relationship.  We cannot really be close to someone if we can't trust them.  And if we are...this may not be wise.

This blog is for those of you who have messed up...made a mistake...hurt somebody...damaged the trust someone had in you.  It is within your power to earn that trust back, purchase zantac without prescription. Discount zantac overnight delivery, Note that I said earn..  You cannot demand trust.  It must be earned, and given freely.  There is no big sign that declares someone trustworthy or not.  Someone decides...or not...to place their trust in you.  To trust that their heart/money/safety is safe with you.  Trust is a gift, buy zantac online, Canadian pharmacy zantac, and a decision. 

That said, here are some things that are within your power to do when you have broken trust:


  • Know that it cannot be fixed immediately.   You cannot rush the process.   You may feel better if the incident is never mentioned again, cheap zantac pill, Online zantac, but that's not realistic.  See the rebuilding as a process that takes time and patience.

  • Listen.  There is tremendous power in your ability to listen to and really hear and understand the pain you have caused.  It takes courage to face someone we have hurt, but this is what moves you through to trust.  Just listen to and accept their emotion.  No excuses.  Be that soft place for them to fall.

  • Take responsibility for what you did.  You are not responsible for their emotions...only for what you did.  Name what you did.  Name that it wasn't okay.

  • Apologize in many different ways.  Chapman and Thomas's book "The Five Languages of Apology" describes apologizing as saying "I am sorry."  "I was wrong", buy zantac from us, Zantac bangkok, "What can I do to make it right?" "I'll try not to do that again", and "Will you please forgive me?"

  • Act differently.  If your actions sent the message that your partner/friend wasn't important...then do things that send the opposite, discount zantac no rx, Zantac australia, correct message.  Do things that say "You are vitally important to me".  This can be as small as sending a quick text to say "how's your day?"

  • If the mistake was a lie about something that was hidden, then the gift of transparency is powerful.  Information is power.  Letting your loved one know where you are, canadian zantac, Buy zantac no rx, who you are with...leaving your email, phone and facebook account open and available...openness feeds trust.

  • Do not repeat the behaviour.  If a mistake is made and the lesson is learned, zantac free sample, Lowest price for zantac, that is one thing, but if you are repeating the behaviour, buy zantac cheap, Order zantac in us, then you may want to seek professional help if figuring out why this is happening.  Acting trustworthy is ultimately the only way to get people to trust you.


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What is our deepest desire?  It is to be loved.  To feel lovable and to be loved. 

The only way to find love, is to allow ourselves to be known...to get close.   We will need to connect with someone...to achieve intimacy;  a state or process of deep connection.  That is how we find love.

Even self love...cannot happen unless we truly connect with and know ourselves intimately, norvasc online sales. Find discount norvasc, Intimacy is difficult because there are big risks.  If we let someone get close, we risk rejection, norvasc information, Find cheap norvasc online, indifference...we risk not feeling loved.  For some that's too big a risk to take.  Trauma, old hurts and resentments, buy cheapest norvasc online, Canada norvasc, the busyness of life, daily distractions, cheap norvasc from canada, Norvasc drug, fear of being hurt...all these things stop us from reaching intimacy in a relationship.  If something is getting in the way of you connecting with someone... I suggest talking to a qualified therapist. 

The rewards for achieving intimacy are so substantial.  It's a cliff worth diving off.  For those of you who are ready for intimacy and want to know how to create it in your relationship...here is a place to start:


  • Identify how you and your partner like to connect.  Intellectually, find norvasc online, Norvasc buy online, emotionally, physically?  When do you feel connected to them?  What is your preferred form or language of connection?  Are your styles the same, order discount norvasc, Norvasc price, or different?  Who shuts down...pulls away...reaches out.

  • Make a point of reaching out in your partner's preferred form of intimacy.  It is just as legitimate as yours!

  • Every morning, both of you ask for one thing that you need in order to feel connected.  "Please bring me a coffee when you come home"  "Please shovel the drive before work"  "Please touch my hair"

  • Let each other know how you affect each other, cheapest norvasc price, Norvasc for order, positively and negatively.  It's so easy to stay silent, or to demand or nag.  To say "When you do that for me, norvasc online cheap, Norvasc buy, I feel so loved", or "When you forget to.., best price for norvasc. Where to order norvasc, I feel like I'm not important to you" we are letting them in to our inner sanctum.  We are saying "I want you to know me".  You are strengthening the fibers that connect you when you identify how you affect each other.  Please note that you are not responsible for their emotions.

  • Every evening, share something positive from your day.  Something you feel thankful for, order cheap norvasc, Norvasc cheap, or an amazing moment you had.

  • Touch each other non-sexually.  Touch has become so connected to intercourse in an unfortunate way.  When did you last massage their hands or feet...run your fingers through their hair...taking two seconds for a hug creates intimacy.  (Here's a fun game.  Person A leaves the room and Person B puts a tiny dab of perfume somewhere on their body.  Person A has to sniff until they find it.)

  • Take a bath or shower together.

  • Have a competitive snow fight or card game.  Make fun of your 'need to win'. 

  • Take two minutes and do nothing but look into each other's eyes.  Start at a few feet away and slowly get closer.  How close can you get?

  • Look at old pictures or videos.  Remember what you used to do that built your connection.

  • Another game...put flavours on your skin, and have your partner lick it and determine the flavour.  Let your imagination run with that one...

  • Name your emotions...your fears...your dreams...big ones and little ones.  Be curious about each other and ask the questions that you've stopped asking because you thought you knew it all.  You don't. 

  • Another game...make a facial expression and your partner has to guess what emotion might be attached to it. 


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Then...one year ago, at the age of 49, I got my first ukulele; the perfect answer to my combined problems of little time to learn, limited natural talent and yet the burning desire to sing and play.  Lele (Lay-Lay) is her name, she is a Kala tenor uke, and she has given me confidence and taught me to trust in myself and my voice. 

 

I quickly joined SOUP, a local monday night jam group, and within a few days I could play half a dozen chords and tons of songs.  A uke only has 4 strings!  It was easy!  I was happy.  SOUP nights are like sunshine.  You never met a happier bunch of people!

 

Now I am a person slightly obsessed.  If I have a half hour break in my day, the dirty dishes sit and I am cuddled up with my uke playing away or scouring youtube for the next Jason Mraz, Colbie Caillat or Kina Grannis song to learn.  Rarely does a day go by without connecting with Lele.  She calms me and connects me to my rythymic and spiritual core.  I am feeling the courage just now to begin to break away from the structure of a song someone else has written and just...play...explore.  I think she wants to listen to me!  I think she believes there is a song inside me.   A few days ago I bought a second uke... Buster is a pre-owned (beautifully imperfect!) Solid Spruce top, minocycline cheap, Certified minocycline, Lanikai Flame Maple Tenor Ukulele and he is gorgeous!

 

There may be someone in your life who needs a ukulele.  A lost 14 yr old teenager, a bored baby boomer, find discount minocycline online, Generic minocycline, or a hopeless 80 yr old who feels useless.  Or maybe it's you.  A ukulele will touch your tender heart and help it find voice with sweet resonating power that will astound you. 

 

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"She left her phone/facebook open and there it was...like a punch in the stomach"   Buy inderal without prescription, "Why does he need to chat/text with his ex when he knows it hurts me so much?"

"I don't think anything is going on, but it still doesn't feel right."

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Social media has created a new dilemma for relationships and families.  There are more chances for private conversations with people outside the relationship, and this can cause or worsen trust issues.   What are your rules when it comes to texting, chatting with or private messaging with people outside the relationship?  Every couple can make their own rules about this.  Here are some things to think about...


  1. Do you imagine your partner can see all of your conversations with others?  Would you be okay if your partner could see everything you write?  Does your partner have easy access to see who you are chatting with?   Do you leave your facebook/email open for them to see?  If not, sale inderal, Cheap inderal in usa, why not?


2.    Be aware of the dangers of private chatting.  The person you are chatting with may not want the same thing or have the same understanding of the relationship as you.  People cross boundaries more easily when they think a conversation is private.  Be aware that positive attention from others feels good and can make you want more.  If you find yourself messaging other people, do you ask yourself what the drive is?  The dangers for kids and teens are huge in that they are exposed to private conversations before they have developed and practised maintaining boundaries around their sexuality, inderal from canada. Buy inderal online australia, 3.   When trust has already been broken in a relationship, being completely open about  conversations with others is an important part of the healing and rebuilding process.  If your partner refuses to share passwords or let you see their conversations, buy inderal on line, Drug inderal online purchase, then there is a limit to how much trust you can rebuild. 

4.   Do you know your partner's sensitivities?  How much we are open or private is ultimately up to us, but we hopefully care how it affects our partner.   What allowances do you make for their sensitivities in order to build trust? 

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